Journeying: On Higher Grounds: Part Eight

بسم الله

I obediently plopped myself onto the high chair at our kitchen nook, completely overwhelmed by the situation.

Yahyaa. This was about him.

Oh my word.

My palms were getting all sweaty now, just as I pondered about the possible outcomes here.

“Laila, we got a call this morning… With regard to your proposal,” Daddy cleared his throat, and avoided eye contact.

I was literally hanging onto every word.

“Laila, always know that we are here for you and support you. Whatever you choose, we will accept. Yahyaa is a very nice boy, Masha Allah.”

Hold up. Did I miss it?

Like, I completely missed the punch line here. Did he propose?

Did he actually like me?

I just sat there, staring animatedly at my father, trying to catch on.

“He likes me,” I said stupidly, as I looked up at them. My father had a strange smile on his face.

“No, loser,” Bilal said, getting up to leave. “He just feels sorry for you. If he doesn’t propose, then who will?”

He chuckled to himself, as he made Salaam and left for campus. He was so annoying.

“So,” my father continued,”you make your isthikhaarah and you decide properly. Mummy and I are very happy.”

And they looked very happy. Mummy was smiling, but the glint of tears in her eyes were visible.

Emotional much. She came forward to give me a tight hug, saying something about how her little girl was growing up so fast. She was behaving as if I was already gone.

She didn’t want to let go, and as she hugged me again, I could feel tears welling up in my own eyes.

As for me, I was just blown away. Really. Literally blown away.

Not because of Yahyaa. He was great and I did really like him, but he had some bigger things to conquer if he wanted to do that.

I was just in so much of awe of how my Allah Ta’ala had so beautifully put forward this great event of my life. I mean, amidst the hopes, doubts and mixed emotions, He had heard what was in my heart, even when I was completely unable to fathom it.

“Does Haseena know?” I asked Mummy, pulling away.

I wanted to phone and tell her. Or maybe I should tell Fareeha. She would be very excited about it, I was sure.

“She knew before we did,” Mummy replied.

Crap. No use telling her now. I had to tell Fareeha though. It was good news and I wanted to share it. And yeah, I was a little overwhelmed, so I needed to get her opinion.

Hold up, Laila, something was telling me.

What was I doing? I had just got the news that I was waiting for, and my first thought was to pick up the phone.

I was losing the plot, really.

That was definitely not the right thing to do. I had to first pray two rakaats Salaah, thank Allah Ta’ala  for my blessings, and pray for Him guide me to what was best and right for me.

At the end of the day, it was only He who was responsible for this outcome.

And in keeping with the Sunnah of our Nabi (SAW), I turned to my beloved Allah for guidance. Because although I was quite excited, I was a bit overwhelmed and afraid of this huge step. And in times of affliction, we know that our Nabi (SAW) would turn to Salaah.

And though I tried to constantly inculcate our Nabi’s (SAW) attributes into my life, I knew why I sometimes failed. There were some people who I just looked at, and they reminded me of him and his Sunnah. I wanted to be like that.

I wanted to really embrace the Sunnah, in whatever I would do.

But, I knew that it was a process. Because, in our rat race, we have truly forgotten the essence of the Sunnah. We’ll ask an Aalim if something is Sunnah, not so we can do it, but so we can leave it out. It’s the blantant truth.

But when modern scientists proved the wisdom behind sitting and drinking, we accept it. When the west tells us that overeating can lead to many ill-effects, then only we adhere. We ignore the benifits of the Miswaak, which no modern day electric toothbrush can compare to.

That is our disregard for the Sunnah. Basically, we are disregarding the ways of our Nabi (SAW), and since he was everything that Allah Ta’ala loved, in essence, we are disregarding the command of our Lord.

We are reminded to often read the Seerah of Nabi (SAW), so when we read about him, we can realise how amazing his ways were. How he acted and interacted. How the Sahaba were so in awe of him, that they would speak of no-one but him.

He was the most beautiful of people, inside and out.

Our beloved Nabi (SAW) was neither tall, nor short. There was a gap in his teeth, where noor would emanate from when he would smile.

He was the epitome of character and good manners. Our Messenger’s (SAW) was compassionate to the greatest degree.

The Sahaba had so much of respect for him, that they never attributed just a single quality to him. His values and characteristics were so extensive, and utterly sublime.

Most of all though, we have completely forgotten that our Nabi (SAW) had so much of love for us, that we would never understand.

On a particular occassion, Ummul Mu’mineen Hadhrat Aa’isha (RA) had noticed him in a very good mood. As Nabi’s (SAW) wife, she took advantage of his nature and his mood and asked him to make Du’aa for her. He consented, praying for her forgiveness of all past and future sins.

Aisha (RA) says that when the Prophet (SAW) make that Du’aa, she had said; “I got so happy that I started to laugh. I became overjoyed and I started to laugh. I fell into the lap of the Prophet (SAW).”

“The Prophet (SAW) looked down on me in his lap and the Prophet (SAW) said, ‘Did my dua make you happy, oh Aisha?’”

Aisha radiAllahu anha said, “Of course it made me happy.” What an amazing Du’a. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) saying, ‘Oh Allah, forgive all of your sins, public, private, those that you have done in the past, those that you will do in the future.’

But what was more amazing, was his response thereafter. Do you know what the Prophet (SAW) said?

والله إنها لدعائي لأمَّتي في كل صلاة

Allahu Akbar!

The Prophet  sallalahu alaihi wasallam said, “I swear by Allah, this is the Du’aa that I make for my Ummah in every single Salaah.”

SubhanAllah. This beautiful Du’aa that had made Aisha (RA) so overjoyed, the Prophet (SAW) used to make for us, every day. For forgiveness of our sins.

We have forgotten how he cried for us and would fear for our reckoning. We have forgotten that even on his death bed, with the excruciating pains of his soul leaving his mubaarak body, he wished to feel that pain for his entire Ummah, just so that we would be saved from it.

That was our beloved Nabi’s (SAW) concern and fikr, yet we are barely bothered about his practices that have so much of wisdom. We are not bothered to read about his life and implement the teachings of our Prophet (SAW). We refuse to acknowledge his love for us, and love him back that much in return.

The time has gone for us to sit back and let ‘everyone else’ pursue Deen and the beauty of the Sunnah.

It was time for me to take that step, and improve myself.

And in that way, I knew that whatever choices I would have to make would keep that in mind.

I had prayed for guidance and what was best for me, and spoke to Mummy about what I was going to do. I would need a few days to decide and let them know next week.

I knew that I would have to make the choice, and would be guided to what was best.

But I was going to clear my head and make proper Isthikhaarah before making a decision.

I phoned Fareeha later that day to see if she was home. I decided that I would go and tell her personally about the proposal. I needed to talk about it openly with someone, and maybe get an unbiased opinion, just for the sake of it.

Daddy dropped me off shortly afterwards, and I raced into their house, kind of excited to break the news to her. Her parents and siblings were probably wondering what my problem was, but I just greeted them and ran up to her room.

She opened the door, grinning at me, like she knew all along.

“Lemme guess, Lails,” she said as we plonked on her bed. “He’s Mr Right, huh?”

“I think so, Far,” I admitted. “I really like him. And he’s just… So much of what I had always wanted in a husband.”

She giggled at my use of the word husband, probably finding it weird. I mean, it was quite strange to imagine myself as someone’s wife. But it was also strangely fulfilling.

I giggled back at her, basking in the glory of being the focus of attention for once.

“So, where will you’ll be staying?” She asked, while we lay there, contemplating our futures.

Fareeha would be leaving the following week to stay at her aunty’s house, close to where she would be studying.

“On our own, for now,” I said. “But then probably in PMB, where his parents stay.”

She sat up from the bed for a moment, looking at me, but in a completely different way this time.

“He’s from there?” She asked suddenly. “And he’s Umar’s cousin? What did you say his name is again?”

I sat up now, wondering what was up with her. I don’t think I had mentioned his name.

“Yahyaa,” I said, a little hesitantly.

Her eyes immediately widened at me, and her mouth was slightly agape.

“Oh my word, Lails!” She screeched at me. “NO!”

30 thoughts on “Journeying: On Higher Grounds: Part Eight

  1. جزاك الله خيرا. Sister such beautiful lessons and reminders of what our beloved Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم went thru for us and yet we look for every opportunity to discard his beloved sunnah. May الله allow us to bring alive every sunnah of Nabi just bcoz it’s a Sunnah n not bcoz the west have realized the value of it n decided to tell us
    Laila is so excited but الحمد لله she first turned to الله to thank him
    Wonder what Fareeha knows about Yahyah
    Can’t wait for the next post

    • Ameen! Definitely, may we take heed in bring these beautiful ways into our lives, because of our love for our Nabi (SAW).
      Alhumdulillah. Our Allah is always ready to give us hat we are asking for. We shall have to wait and see.. JazakAllah Khair!

  2. Subhanallah,wat beautiful advises n the saying goes,
    “the sahabah practiced on a sunnah because it was a sunnah,n we leave out a sunnah,because its “only” a sunnah.”
    May Allah make our lives the epitome of the sunnah way of life..ameenXxX

    Oh no,dnt tel me lailas mr.right turns out to b mr.wrong! Well,better she finds out now if hes not as he seems,rather than after marriage..

    • JazakAllah, dear sister. Ameen.
      Most definitely true.. We are so negligent of it’s true value. Allah guide us.
      Haha.. Might be.. We shall have to see. Most definitely sooner than later!

  3. H noo! Wt does fareeha knw nw! Jus wen I ws tnkn that they are such a good match!

    Beautiful story of d Prophets (SAW) dua, and so is true,we don’t take heed of Sunnah but because the scientists have now proven the truth behind this sunnah,then we admit it. We should realise that there is always a benefit behind each and every Sunnat.

    • Sister, you’re quite keen on Yahyaa for Laila, huh? Hmm.. Maybe there still might be a chance.. or maybe not. 😉
      Most definitely. Sadly, we always need proof before we see the benefit in anything. Allah guide us and grant us the tawfeeq.
      JazakAllah, sister!

  4. سبحان الله!! As we learn in the 6 points of da’wah and tableegh success lies in following the sunnah of our beloved rasoolullah صلى الله عليه وسلم. True love for rasoolullah صلي الله عليه و سلم means obeying his commands and practicing on his sunnah. He صلي الله عليه و سلم once said, Everyone of my ummah will enter Jannah except those who refuse. It was said to him by the sahaabah Allah be pleased with them all, “And who will refuse oh rasoolullah صلي الله علية وسلم!” He said, “Those who obey me will enter Jannah and those who disobey me have indeed refused!”… Now what does Fareeha have to say. Sounds like not so good news.

    • Most definitely.We will be raised amongst those whom we imitated. May ALlah grant us the tawfeeq to act upon those actions of Nabi’s (SAW) and keep us there, so we will be raised as his righteous Ummah. Allah give us that love for him and his practises in our heart.
      Hmm.. The suspense… Fareeha and her dramas

  5. Fareehas probably gona have a very distorted story about Yahyaa now lol shs so dramatic.
    SubhanALLAH the part about following the sunnah of our beloved Nabi (SAW) is so true we learn about all the hardships that our beloved Nabi (SAW) went through for our sins yet over time we forget or jus t put it to the back of our minds and just pretend that if we dont remember than we dont have to practise. Does anybody know of any good books in english of course about the life of our beloved Nabi (SAW) and the Sahabas that i can read? JazakALLAH for an amazing post.

    • Haha. Everyone knows Fareeha too well. It is probably going to be dramatic.. but I wonder what the outcome will be.
      Jhee, we most definitely need to read about his life so that we can be constantly in accordance of practise of his ways. Sometimes we implement for a short while, and then forget.
      About books, the Fadhaail-e-Amaal is great for stories- first section is stories of Sahaba and extremely informative. Mufti Elias’s selection is good- There are stories about the Prophets and about Nabi (SAW)’s wives. Munthakab Abwaab has beautiful Hadith too, as well. As for the life of Nabi SAW, any book on his Seerah or the battles by well-known Aalims will surely be good. Just double check whose work sister is reading. JazakAllah sister.

  6. bismillah,
    This guy reminds me of many of my friends, while I like them, I certainly wouldn’t want them for my bro in law. That is if they had to come ask for my sister,I would dissuade her. Laila’s going to be smitten since she’s 17 and although he has deen,he doesn’t have depth. (with the whole hunting for a hoody and hours with his hair)Something fishy about him. Used to hear enough guys with the “I wont bite you” line to girls. Doesn’t strike me as decent or to be in her face when you go to see a girl. Along with Deen, you want depth and Akhlaaq.

  7. Alhumdulillah. JazakAllah Khair.
    I think we needed a male to pick up on the little superficialities that this guy seems to have… Although a few of our female readers did say he’s conceited. Hoodie kurta, no hat, with converse style… maybe a lil fishy.
    As females, we tend to ignore those little facts (Hair and obsession with looks) until a little way into marriage when they become a bit annoying. Although, maybe he might grow up? Change to a better ‘version’ of Sunnah Libaas, and of course, akhlaaq too.
    Laila is most definitely very young, immature, and yes, a bit infatuation by the ‘idea’ of him. Fishiness and all, maybe Laila will still make an informed decision…

  8. Oh the suspense! lol. Very true how we ask if something is sunnah just so that we can omit it, rather than practice upon it. May Allah guide us all. Ameen. Jazakallah for the wonderful reminders and for the knowledge imparted.

  9. Oh man sounds like bad news. Poor Laila actually thought he was the one. Loved the story of the prophet (saw)

  10. Lovely and inspiring post as always!Mashallah… WHY?!?! What happened! What did he do?!?,,uhm..wonder why she said “NO!” Can’t wait for the next post!

  11. Assalamualaikum mashaAllah this blog is very inspiring and portrays the true beauty of islaam. Does anyone know of any other deeni blogs besides The sunset of Isipingo N forever a messup? Allah reward the authour abundantly and grant myself,the author,and the readers hidaayat and the true sweetness of Imaan Ameen

    • Wa alaikumus salaam. JazakAllah, sister. Do check out the blogs I follow (scroll down below).They are all deeni-inclined, though some are fictional and some are not.
      Ameen. Am most in need of the Du’aas. Please continue to rem me in urs.

  12. Masha Allah well written blog, always takin us back to important aspects of deen n givin us good reminders Alhamdulillah. May Allah grant us the ability to practice, Aameen. To the sister that asked about a good seerah book i recommend Uswa E Rasool (Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam), Ar Raheeq Al Makhtoom and When the moon split.

    • JazakAllah Khair, sister. Alhumdulillah. Definitely, most important is that we all take heed and make amal.
      May Allah reward you for those recommendations. I’m sure the sister will appreciate it.

  13. laila think properly b4 giving your answer…in the history of mankind there wasnt a guy who came 2 propose nastily-u only see their frot after marriage.(speakin 4rm personal experience)ask as many ppl as u can about him;especially his ustaads,friends,neighbours,class mates,etc.dont worry 2 find out 4rm his family coz in their eyes he will always be ‘wonderful’…maag 4 ramblin;only realized now that i sound lyk gori ma giving advice,lol!!

    • Haha. Masha Allah. What good advice…so true. They will try any trick in the book to try and get in the good books.
      Yea, never mind about sounding like gori ma, these things have to be found out about, even if the family ‘knows’ him. Background checks are so important. JazakAllah for bringing that up!

  14. Salaamu alaykum. Awesome blog! Numerous lessons to be learnt, may Allah grant us tawfeeq to practise upon it. Laila should do thorough research bout him and not b hasty in making a decision cause hastiness is from shaytaan….
    Istikharah at this point is extremely imperative , its not only asking Allah for the best….. But also asking Allah to make u satisfied n content with ur decision.
    May Allah reward u for continously inspiring us… Aameen

    • Wa alaikumus salaam, dear sister. JazakAllah Khair! Alhumdulillah.. Whatever good is from Allah Ta’ala… . May He make it easy for us to make amal.
      Sister, those advices are so vital, Alhumdulillah. To be happy and content with any decision is of vital importance.
      Ameen. JazakAllah Khair, sister!

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